During foreplay it’s easy to spend energy on your girl’s headline features up front—who doesn’t want to use a little extra time caressing the girls? But, by focusing too much on predictable erogenous zones, like her neck, inner wrist, and back of her knees, you’re missing out on the chance to pay homage to some lesser-known regions she’s dying to have you embrace.
So up your game and take more notice of these four surprising body parts. You’ll heighten her arousal and take your sex life to a whole new level.
Just as the sight of a sexy pedicure can pique your interest, some women love attention spent on their toes. “This is the kind of situation that may feel really ticklish in the beginning, but may feel really good as you are cycling through the process of arousal,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. Every stage of arousal changes body receptivity to sensation, Kerner says, so what was once ticklish can become exciting later on.
If you aren’t sure how to incorporate this into your playbook, start off easy and Give Her a Sexy Foot Massage. If things feel right, you can progress to more sensual stroking or kisses from there. To reduce any possible awkwardness, focus on massaging the whole foot and using your hands 80 percent of the time, and your mouth 20 percent, Kerner says. “That will minimize the oddness potential.”
There are approximately 100,000 hair strands on a scalp, and attached to each one of these are tiny muscles called arrector pili muscles—muscles tied to your sympathetic nervous system that trigger your involuntary reactions, like fight-or-flight. If you’ve ever felt like your hair was standing on end when you were really cold, then you’ve felt those muscles.
Wrapping a lock of her hair around your finger and pulling gently will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in her scalp, sending the tingling pleasure down her back, says Kerner. You will want to start off gentler, closer to a scalp massage than intense hair-grabbing passion. As things heat up and her arousal causes her body to release endorphins, her pain threshold will increase and you can become a little rougher.
Her Sensitive Skin
Focus your sensual touch on locations with the smoothest skin, like the inner thigh, stomach, or upper inner arm. Regions with thinner skin have more sensitive nerve endings, says Kerner. But you will want to be careful with how you touch these regions. If you go too rough, like grabbing too hard or abrading the skin with too forceful strokes, you can take her out of the arousal process. Gentle touches are enough to get her engines revving, says Kerner. For an even more heightened experience, run your penis—not just your hands—across her bare skin. The feel of your erection across her lower, thighs, and stomach will give her goose and have her begging for more.
We know you can’t physically touch her noodle, but no matter how good you are with your hands, she’s hoping you will stimulate her brain with your words. “Physical stimulation doesn’t exist in a vacuum,” says Kerner. You can enhance her sensations wherever you’re touching her if you communicate a scenario.
“Whether the scenario is a fantasy about wanting to dominate and ravish her, or tease and tantalize her. Just talking about that will provide a context for your touch,” says Kerner. Communicating how her body makes you feel as you touch each part heightens the experience, so when you run your hands along her thighs, let her know just how much her long legs drive you wild. Or, whisper how sexy you find her as you nibble on her earlobe. The combination of mental and physical stimulation will push her over the edge.